There is little question that making your toddler feel valued, special and loved is connected to their self esteem and happiness. Self esteem gives toddlers the confidence to try new things and be brave as he becomes more independent from you and comes from a feeling of security and belonging and knowing what we have to contribute is appreciated.

Knowing the importance of self esteem it is no surprise why I regularly question whether or not my toddlers are feeling loved and special. I used to think this called for gigantic efforts of magical holidays and presents every time we are at the shops. Thank goodness the experts agree that making your toddler feel special and loved is in the little things we can do every day.

how I make my toddlers feel special and loved

• show affection

Our days begin with morning cuddles. My three year old races down the stairs for morning cuddles, I pick him and run holding him around our kitchen counter. I then repeat with my two year old. They then give each other a big cuddle and breakfast time begins. Our days also end with kisses and cuddles before bed.

• spending time with them

I’m lucky to be home with my toddlers for most of the week. Each week I plan one activity which each of them has a special interest in. For my son, this might be driving to the airport to watch the planes take off and for my daughter it’s often going to the library to read books together.

• making up special stories and songs

My husband is the best at making up special songs for bedtime. Songs which include what activities we did in the day or what we are going to do tomorrow. As well as special stories about planning their next adventure together or adventures past.

• compliment them

I often praise my toddlers efforts in front of them when I’m telling my husband. For example my toddler has recently learnt how to get around on her scooter, so I’ll tell my husband how determined she was in learning to ride on her scooter and how proud that made me of her.

• ask for their help

Often I will ask my three year to help me figure something out, for example if I have to put together a new toy or if I’m tossing up between different colour choices. Straight away I see how important and valued this makes him feel and how willing he is to offer his opinion knowing he is valued and loved.

This blog post was brought to you and your baby with love by Julia and the Itchy Baby Co. team.